Forbidden Topics- Sex

Sex. It’s everywhere and while one of the most shown acts on the internet, tv, in writings, and various other media outlets, it is one of the most non discussed topics in the church. We just urge children not to do it. When children have examples surrounding them that only show them how to do it, why would they listen to us when we say that they shouldn’t do it? Our very actions tell these kids that sex is the best thing that can happen to you, that everyone is doing it, that virginity should be lost now, and to just have fun with your sexuality.
My generation is considered to be the start of this downward slide into debauchery where sex with as many partners is the goal. To this, I scoff.
My generation and those that follow us are dealing with the burden of the 60’s and 70’s bid for ‘free love.’ Before that, there was the idealized belief in family- the typical 50’s household seen in the Andy Griffith show as well as the Leave It To Beaver show. Looking back many people, especially in the church, lament for the loss of family cohesiveness even in the midst of splitting up their own family.
Our beliefs of other generations are greatly limited by the fact that we only get a very small glimpse into their lives. We get the cleaned up version of their relationships. The ability of gossip was limited to towns and cities regarding who you spoke too. Technology in today’s age makes the ability to know everyone’s business at the click of a mouse key.

So in comparison-

    1. It looks like more men and women participate in non-marital sex today than they did 50 years ago (much less two centuries ago). This is because we broadcast it with Facebook and other media outlets through our statuses and our pictures or videos. When in fact men were known to keep numerous mistresses and/or frequent prostitutes in former eras.  Percentages of upper class women who had affairs is unknown, but still acknowledged.
    2. It looks like marital abuse is more prevalent today than it was in our grandparents age- because we have more ways of getting out of the abusive situation. We can actually get other people involved in our marriage to protect the person who is being abused- police, shelters, and neighbors actually seek to protect and help that person. Where in our grandparents’ era, what happened behind close doors stayed behind closed doors. Women who tried to get help were told to stop sinning and obey their husbands. Husbands who were abused (it happens!) wouldn’t talk about it for fear of humiliation and public scorn (this is still very prevalent in today’s society, there are very few resources for men who are abused by their wives).
    3. It seems like we have more sexually transmitted diseases than previous generations, but once again it’s because we actually hear about it through statistics and prevention talks. Caesars, kings, and well known famous people were documented throughout history of dying from syphilis (known through history as “the Great Pox” or “the French disease” it was thought to be brought to Europe either by Columbus or the 1494 invasion by the French) , gonorrhea (the ‘clap’ was recorded as early as the 16th century), as well as numerous other STDs.  They were not immune to these diseases, but once again, they weren’t talked about in public and only written in journals of close advisors or the person themselves. The horror of the HIV/AIDSepidemic is being known now because of the fact that it does not discriminate in regards to race or economics or sexual orientation as it was first thought, but rather is a equal opportunist to anyone who is sexually active and numerous children are being born with it now.  While AIDS was officially noticed in 1981, there is a strong possibility that the HIV-1 disease was found in the 50’s if not a little earlier.
      • The thing to remember while reading this is the fact that my generation is NOT the generation to start STDs, but rather are dealing with many diseases that had in fact  started numerous generations ago. Because of the impetuous found in the 60s and 70s for ‘free love’ we have created a fertile ground for these diseases to thrive.
    4. While this post is not about homosexuality, that is another thing that my generation is being blamed for, when in fact as can be seen biblically, homosexuality has been around since at least Abraham’s age- where it is mentioned in regards to Sodom and Gomorrah (Genesis 19–  a clarifying point on the reason that the cities were destroyed was not due to homosexuality but the lack of hospitality as can be seen in careful reading of the text).
      • Historically (at least 2nd century), the Greek and Roman cultures were practitioners of homosexuality as well as what would be considered in today’s society pedophilia. The Roman Emperor Nero, one of the most horrific leaders of the ‘civilized world’ would rape male children under the age of 10 and toss the bodies of the children out of his window. Nero married a young male slave who looked like one of his wives that he had previously killed, making him into an eunuch and dressed him in women’s clothing, making his subjects call his ‘wife’ queen.
      • Both cultures also attempted to find ways of procreating between men, without the use of a woman, at different times. Their governments sponsored scientists in their search of the answer.
    5. Porn. It is seemingly everywhere, children are exposed to it at a very young age now if they are playing on the internet. Sex sells. Advertisers know this and use this, so a car commercial becomes a respectable form of pornography when a woman who is barely clothed is draped across the hood. Porn isn’t something new to my generation either- we just have made it more accessible. The Kama Sutra and the Victorian age‘s ‘etchings’ are just a small example of what were available. Rome and Greek had mosaics on walls that portrayed the sex act as well.
    6. Underage pregnancy was also prevalent in former eras- young girls were suddenly shipped off to a ‘girls school’ where they had their babies (many of which were put into orphanages) or various attempts at abortion were practiced, many with horrifying results.

So as can be seen- my generation is not the cause of the horrors we see right now. Rather the ‘sins of the father’ are being perpetrated into the next generation. The main difference in today’s society verses those generations that we have followed is the fact that we have the ability  show what we are doing. We don’t keep the acts of the bedroom in the bedroom anymore but rather broadcast it to the world. We keep looking for the next shocking thing and we want to shock each other because we want to be popular. The more we do the more we become apathetic and numb to what we are doing, so we seek the next thing.
Our children mimic what we do. Just as we mimic what our parents did. How can we expect them to do anything else because we are not practicing what we want them to do.
I believe sex should be talked about openly in the church. That we should be telling the kids how beautiful it is, that it is a gift from God for two people to become one. That a man and a woman who truly love each other get the opportunity to become even closer when they get married. Sex shouldn’t be hidden but respected. We shouldn’t as believers make it a disgusting act, but be shown how God created it for pleasure and procreation both.
If we act ashamed of sex, our children will either seek it out to see what they think or become equally ashamed of it- this causes problems within the marriage as well!
Sex isn’t something that should be practiced openly for all to participate, but it should be respected  and honored because it is something God created for us.
My generation might not have caused the problems we face right now, but maybe we can be the generation to start causing change by teaching our children the beauty that God has created in sex. If we do this, maybe divorce rates will lessen. Maybe families won’t split so readily, maybe children won’t be sexually abused so much, maybe STDs will fade. Maybe we can do what God wanted in the first place.

These are just some thoughts I had regarding a forbidden topic- sex.

“Do you not know that you are a temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwells in you? If any man destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him, for the temple of God is holy, and that is what you are.” (1 Corinthians 3:16-17)

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)